Helping Our Children Grow up Happy and Resilient

However, a worthy reminder: do not compare children and their unique journeys. “Having a sense of achievement means thriving,” says Gail Johnson, a pediatric occupational therapist. “Acknowledging that each child is differently abled allows us to celebrate their unique competencies and facilitate opportunities to succeed.”

The way we start … 

Our first years of life are the most impactful for brain development. New neural connections, called synapses, form with each new experience.

Building a new brain requires proper nutrition (and supplementation, where necessary) that ensures adequate levels of folate, iodine, vitamin D, iron, choline, and omega-3 essential fatty acids (essential for brain development). However, high stress levels and various hormones can also impact brain development.

The journey continues … 

Early infancy is the time for bonding. By holding our babies and attending to their needs, we help them learn to trust us, each interaction cemented by new synapses—over 1 million neural connections are being formed in the brain every second during the first few years of life.

During preschool and school years, children learn about cooperative and competitive play, handling emotions, and developing social skills. Being present allows you to observe and help create opportunities to respond to their needs, including their new need for more independence.

Then come the often-troubled years …

Parenting teenagers has never been easy, and each generation faces new challenges.

“There’s much [brain] rewiring happening during the teenage years, which often makes communication difficult,” says Johnson. Strive to create a positive family environment and offer opportunities to connect over what interests them. Above all, says Johnson, be present, observe, and listen.

Help them say “no” 

Alcohol and drugs can impact the developing brains in myriad ways. Cannabis affects coordination, thinking and decision making, and mood. Alcohol can impair memory and may cause changes within the brain and between brain regions.

Allowing children to say “no” early in life helps them learn about boundaries and equips them to better resist peer pressure related to drugs and alcohol during the teenage years.

Open the conversation ahead of time and help them come up with a plan such as having supportive peers, leaving when not feeling safe, and even blaming it on their parents, if need be.

Growing brains love movement! 

Physically active children and teenagers are likely to learn better and develop better self-esteem compared to those who are less active. “Movement helps with attention and mood regulation and it’s an opportunity for social connection,” says Johnson.

But it’s not just organized sports that count. Impromptu silly dances, backyard hide-and-seek, hikes, and bike rides all mean movement and connecting with your child. “Engage in something that’s joyful for your children,” says Johnson, “and find ways to pursue activities you like and introduce your children to them.”

Brainy helpers for children 

Omega-3 essential fatty acids 

Supplements may improve ADHD symptoms and enhance memory and verbal skills.

Note: Be sure to speak to a health professional prior to starting your child on a supplement.

Vitamin N (nature) 

Daily doses improve cognition and brain activity and promote better sleep. 

Vitamin S (sleep) 

Sufficient sleep (at least 9 hours) promotes healthy brain development and better emotion regulation.

Learning comes in many forms 

“Learning happens through visual, auditory, or verbal cues, and also through physical movement,” says Johnson. “If a child has difficulties processing language, for example, they may lose focus during school activities and act out.”

That can be an indication that they learn differently, says Johnson, so judgment aside, it may be useful to consult a child development specialist and learn about how to best support your child on their academic journey.

Good to know 

• Exercise during pregnancy improves cognitive performance in children.
• Brain volume doubles in the first year of life and reaches 90 percent of adult size by the age of 5.
• The prefrontal cortex—located at the front of the brain—is the most sophisticated brain structure, and it doesn’t develop until we’re around 20 to 25 years old. That explains impulsivity and occasional less-than-ideal decision making.
• Developing teenage brains respond differently to stress, which makes them more susceptible to developing anxiety and depression.